I was recently listening to Jason Crouch's Social Media Edge blog talk radio show and his guest Chris Brogan actually used the phrase when discussing a very aggressive person who was vying for his time and business. The fact remains that many people don't seem to have any idea how pushy and irritating they can be (though many do intentionally) in business and social settings. Ironically while I was on office property tour with some of my associates earlier in the day I experienced the same behavior...literally. One of the homes we visited had an English Bulldog as a pet and as I am fan of the breed, I stopped to pet and scratch the happy dog and enjoyed playing for a few moments. On the way out the dog came running around the corner for some more and in the excitement got more than a little carried away. I can understand this as I am friendly, outging and attractive in a rugged sort of manner and it's obvious...you can see it in the dog's ecstatic expression BUT this was too much! So don't let this happen to you and don't YOU be this dog in social situations! (Photo by my colleague Francie Little)
This brings me to the subject of networking during the holidays. It really is an excellent time to be out and about and frankly I enjoy visiting with friends, colleagues and many new people at the numerous social functions that occur during the season. I've already been to several parties this month and though I have not suffered the same gripping behavior I have been the recipiant of several moments that don't fit the bill. Please don't shove a card in my face and tell me to call you. If I am interested, I will ask for your card and hopefully my wife will remember your name if I forget. I am not out to sell anything except maybe me as a person behind my profession. Like most folks at nearly all parties, what we do for a living will come up and we will have plenty of time to visit about work and hopefully other things too!
I am always amazed at the fact that people are so interested in talking about real estate so I try to be prepared with statistics and a general overview of my particular market as well as current trends and opinions. Parties seem to lighten the attitude and people are genuinely interested in the real estate market in a non-threatening environment. Because of this, I take the opportunity to share with as much or little as required and nothing more! My sharing is limited to as much as is comfortable and I always keep it light and never offer my own card or press for personal information. Again, I don't enjoy high pressure sales tactics or manipulatiion by people who dominate the conversation for their own self gratification or needs. I mean really, it's a party so let's all relax and have a good time! If you would like more information about the real estate market in Austin, Texas feel free to contact me at your convenience and in the meantime:
Have a great holiday season!
Russell,
Good post. I never thought of it in that way but it fits very well.
Russell - I love the aspect of networking during the holidays too and don't push the subject of real estate unless asked. I would much rather prefer to have a night of fun and enjoy light conversations and steer away from real estate topics. I can get that at the office!! :)
Russell you are so crazy at times and so serious at others but I bet you are always fun at parties! We like your attitude-Business with a nice dose of humor!
The social networking part is definitely true. I appreciate being able to help people by answering their questions, but many people just don't get that this is what I do all day long 5 or 6 days per week, and when we are at a social gathering, it is not a meet a greet business affair. In other words, I don't want to talk business when I am trying to relax, but so many people will not take the hint.
hi Russell, at the best of times, too many people abuse networking, social media, etc... If I had a cookie for every person with a Facbook fan page who invited to be a "fan" 4 or 5+ times, I'd have a lot of cookies. Have a great weekend buddy!
P.S. Your dog looks really happy! ;-)
Howdy there Russell
I also do not at all enjoy those high pressure kind of sales tactics, and I sure don't like talken with a big blow heart. Thats for sure! When ever someone starts in to either og these two things. The first thing that come to my mind is, this poor soul is a real loser. I'm not at all in to talken busuness at a party. But if I'm asked a question, I will answer it.
Hope you have had a real fine week, my friend
Russell, That is very amusing...and very funny! For some reason, I have had dogs run up to me and pee right next to my leg...You can imagine how special I felt during those moments. Of course, this has happened both times with others present. So a social greeting is good----but only to a point---make sure you know your audience!
Russell - you have me rolling on the floor with this one! It is so funny that one of your buds was able to capture the 'Kodak Moment'!!!!!! LMBO - Poor Russell..... :)
Debi
Ha ha!! The person who took the picture tried to get me stand still so as to get a better picture and of course I complied thinking of how funny it looked! Thanks for stopping by, I am leaving for the evening but will return and reply to all of your comments later!
Hi Russell-That pic is priceless and sure does fit your title. Happy Holidays. <SMILE>
Russell, Your are my kind of party animal (lol). Personally I don't bring up real estate unless someone else brings it up. I will share if asked but it is party and I'm there to enjoy not to work. An English bull dog is my daughter's favorite dog.
HAHAHAHAA!!! I am SO glad someone had a camera! And I can't believe you found a way to incorporate this picture into a serious blog. Oh, but you should add "humble" to your personal list of character traits =P
Humping my leg, catchy phrase but tacky!
I like that Russel - it's true - socializing and networking during holiday parties is a given -but make it friendly, subtle and fun!
The best part about the holidays is that everyone is in a good mood. Unless they are trying to run you over at Wal-Mart. By the way, the title to this post is great.
Well I never liked anything humping my leg - LOL - the dog looks happy though :) ~Rita
Well done some are just as pushy as the Bull Dog.
Ted I had never thought of it until I heard Chris Brogan's reference and it just cracked me up!
Donna I agree that business should not be the main topic but I am often surprised and happy to oblige at parties with certain limitations!
Lynne & Jessica I do have a tendency at being serious when it comes to business but as you know I do have a mischievous side ;-P
Ron I agree that we need our downtime but social gatherings present a good opportunity within limits to meet and visit in a casual environment that makes it a lot more comfortable.
Marti Nice seeing you here my friend, since we are both fans of cookies I know that we like lots of them but I would not want any if I had to sign up and be social! I know what you mean. BTW you are cracking me up over the dog...I mean really, I am NOT that kind of guy! ;-P
Dale I have to agree and think that you and I are cut from the same cloth. big mouths who are constantly tooting their own horns are boring! Thanks for stopping by!
Jane Thanks for your comment and you made me actually laugh out loud as they say and I love you statement that we need to "know our audience". So true!
Debi I actually thought it was pretty funny right after I managed to pry te dog loose!
Sharon The picture is truly priceless and one of the few times that is a literal translation of the title!
Marchel Now THAT is really funny because in my younger years I was something of a party animal and your daughter has great taste when it comes to dogs. English Bull dogs are interesting anfd funny characters and lits of fun (when not being overly amorous!)
LisaYou have such a great sense of humor too and thanks also for the compliment. BTW how many shopping days till your BD?
"DOC" Yeah I have to agree but when I heard Chris Brogan use the term it just seemed to fit the bill so well!
Liz Having enjoyed dinner with you in the past i know that you are great company and a good conversationalist which makes you the best sort of company at a party!
Nathan I know you just got out of the service which is why you probably have the survival skills to make a Wal-Mart run during this season but be careful and thanks for dropping by!
Rita I like a lot of different things but can do without the leg thing too and as far as the dog's look of joy...well it was certainly priceless! :-)
Elite Home Sales You said it and probably NOT nearly as friendly or funny!
This is funny! I own an english bulldog ( neutered, thank you)... we did have a bulldog once that didnt hump but knew how to wrap his arms around you like the photo!
I am guessing he loved your suit or cologne! Either way, bad dog!
The truth is in the post though- it is a big turn off to be "bullied" over the season and allowing conversation to become counselling or an interview. Sometimes cornered to hear lenghty details of a Realtor from years ago. When it begins, simply inject/ say : "it is a wonderful party and great to get to know you, if you would like to talk RE lets maybe get together sometime next week." This way you are implying lets nip the work chat and get to talking about family, interests etc...
I had not heard that saying as it relates to Social Media but it fits.
I can't always log into Jason's show, but when I can I enjoy it.
Russell - I find that people are less pushy about their businesses and now at social functions than they were during boom times. There also less bragging about accomplishments at work. If this economic downturn has been good for something, it is to bring humility back and create a desire to really connect the person standing next to you, rather than trying to impress them.
Russell, that is sooooo funny, the dog really liked you ..ha, ha....
I mean really, it's a party so let's all relax and have a good time! I couldn't agree more with this statement.
We missed you last night Russell (or were you there and i just didnt get your card) - hah - kidding - this is so true and so good - good thoughts - MERRY CHRISTMAS! (yes, i said Christmas)...it is for Him we have the season!
Russell...
I almost lost the lesson because I was laughing so hard! That is quite an awkward situation! lol
Permission based marketing is still alive and well. However, your story reminded me of a slogan of an old trucking company that I hope Realtors don't use as a slogan, "Humping to Please".
Stop... you're gonna ruin it...
Russell - the dog obviously was not finished playing (lol). I actually never .... and I do mean never ... give my business card to anyone ... unless they ask. Most people do ask for my card.... it is amazing how it works. People do not want to be sold! Merry Christmas!!
I've seen some that are very pushy like this. They've approached my cleints when driving around, and have been politley pushed back by them. If only there was a way to have some agents spayed or neutered, we could aviod some of these embarrasing situations.
Hi Russell -- I find that if people know you are in real estate, they want to talk about it as many people really want to offer an opinion or ask how the market is. But the kind of tactic you mention is offensive to many people. Be real, people appreciate it. You are right on.
Russell You sound like a real party animal - at least to English Bulldogs" Sometimes I wish there was a law against pushy people in real estate. Merry Christmas
Great analogy Russell. And great job poking fun at yourself to make your point.
Now, as far as that dog goes.....Don't worry, he'll stop when he's one!!!!
Russell - That dog looks entirely too happy. Congrats on your featured post, my friend. Another one from Chris Brogan (equally tacky but also memorable) is "I'm reaching out to shake your hand, and you're trying to put your tongue in my mouth."
Hi Russell-Just wanted to stop back again and congratulate you on the well deserved feature. Now LOTS of people get to see that very funny pic. I love the fact that you are doing your best to cover your face but we can still tell it is you. BTW-I hate PUSHY people as well. I like the soft sell but anybody that tries that hard sell can forget my business. Have fun getting that tree. <SMILE>
What a photo op! Glad someone was able to be there to capture the precious moment of true love! This really made me laugh. I am sure it wasn't as amusing to you at the time.....you are right though. Especially this time of year, the get togethers are for appreciation, friendship and togetherness. If someone asks, I will be more than happy to share or offer to meet with them at a later date. Hey, I am there to have a good time too!
Do you think this year because of the economy some people (not just RE agents) are being more aggressive in handing out cards, asking for business at holiday occasions?
You certainly are "friendly, outging and attractive in a rugged sort of manner" and add funny. How wonderful that Francie Little caught the shot. Timing is everything. Which happened first Chris Brogan using the phrase or the dog using your leg?
Floozy.
Russell: That is a priceless picture. And it's funny that Chris Brogan made that statement. I've heard his sales tactics toward this short sale expertise for agents, etc are exactly what he's telling people to avoid. As for the Christmas parties, I noticed this last night. Everyone wants to ask about the market. I'm like you. I don't shove cards into people's hands and beg them for info. I gave out one card.....and that was because she asked for it. And that party goer left the party, she stopped to thank me for my time and tell me she would be calling. What great validation that I did not "hump her leg."
Russell,
I just shooed someone of our leg who keeps trying to sell me grocery and travel certificates, after assuring her that we don't have employees whose morale will get boosted, etc. Social media is a way to meet people, not to beg for business as is a party! Happy partying.
Get those pants dry cleaned.
Hi Russell, Too funny and so true. It's a party and a time to relax and have fun! Love the photo and congrats on the feature. Maybe it was your cologne LOL!
I almost left a party for this very reason last night. Before I was even able to check my coat, I had two people thrusting business cards at me. Fortunately, they started taking cues from some of the other members who had been around longer and learned to calm down a little, have some fun, meet new people and let it flow naturally.
Dear Russell,
This is too funny. It must be that time of year or something, yesterday I saw a video of a woman in the same situation. I bet you can find it on Youtube. Sadly some people don't understand that high pressure sales tactics always backfire and drive the prospect away. Thanks for a great post & it is good to have you back my friend.
Betina Foreman
Russell,
Great job. I too am glad somebody had a camera. Good thing we can laugh at ourselves.
Russell - I enjoyed your story (AND the photo) and it made me chuckle, but the analogy was SO appropriate. I hate the pushy sales person, in any industry, who just can't wait to bend my ear and seems to have no interest in anything I might have to say.
I always wait to folks to ask me about the market, and am prepared to respond since I do so many market reports, but there are times when I would simply prefer to just have a good time, meet new folks, and visit, versus talking about what I spend so much time one.
Jeff
So true!!! Is there anything worse than a pushy sales person? Aren't we lucky to be in a business where people ask us about our business at a party or networking event? Very funny post.
Russell, Pushy sales people don't work for me. Great photo and yes, there are times we just want to have fun! I think folks see real estate and a local economy indicator, so they like finding out what is going on. All the best, Michelle
Holy mackerel...I just returned to find this bit craziness featured! Thanks so much, it will take awhile but I will try and reply to everyone. I thought it was funny when Francie took the picture, you know no one is safe these days with a camera in every phone!!!
Michelle My peoples! (as our son used to shout when he was a youngster) Bulldog people are a unique bunch and we always get along in crowds ( we had two years ago) I agree that it can go both ways with the responsibility of us a professionals to set the tone and still hopefully leave a good impression.
Missy It was new to me but was a good , if somewhat graphic description. I don't get to hear Jason's show as much as I would like because my office meeting and tour are on Tuesdays at the same time but I tune in when I can. He always has lots of good information and guests!
Gail I think that is one of the best observations I've heard as it relates to our current market. I started out in 1989 in a similar downturn and always had a different view and attitude. It's amazing how arrogant some people can be about selling property, I mean we are not saving lives or making huge scientific discoveries. We are providing a service!
Rebecca I think we would get along well in any social situation and you and everybody else are making way too much of the joy of the dog and it just makes me laugh even more! Thanks for stopping by!
Patti Nice seeing you here my friend, we ended up at another party that ran long and just gave it up when it got late! Merry Christmas to you too!
Richard Thanks for stopping by and like you I laughed at the absurdity of the whole thing. I somehow managed to patch it into something that made sense!
Joe I remember that catch phrase. It was plastered on the sides of a large trucking companies trailers. It was Campbell Trucking out of Dallas and also featured a goofy looking camel "humping it"!
English BD Oh man I remember that, "you will ruin the mood"!
Kathleen Ok...that's really funny and I laughed again however I agree and never offer my card unless asked!
Geoff Oh you may be on to something here. I actually caught a realtor pestering a buyer of mine in the grocery store recently and had to intervene right there. My client was appreciative that I walked up at that point! I am always amazed at the nerve of some people!
Chris You are so right and in a social situation it can be easy and informative and I like your mention of just being real and not putting on some dog and pony show!
Karen You and several of my other favorite bloggers have made the same remark that keeps making me laugh and yes I am a "retired" party animal. Merry Christmas to you too!
Craig Like you I have no problem poking fun at myself because we can certainly dish it out when it comes to making fun! And somehow I knew you would join in with the bunch that keeps talking about the happy dog! ;-)
Jason Oh man you guys never stop and thanks for the kudos! I have to say I cannot think of a single thing to use the tongue in mouth reference, too funny!
Sharon Thank you my friend I was okay with the picture but did not want my face in it. I mean, how weird it might have been if I was smiling! OOPS just kidding, I was startled but did not want to swat the dog, just shake myself loose! You and I are in agreement in not wanting high pressure sales tactics!
Stephanie You totally cracked me up you words could be on the cover of a romance novel! :-) Like you I am friendly and like to share in a casual setting and it's a good way to set up future meetings too!
Maureen I think you might be on to something because times are tougher than in the past but still the behavior is just going to put folks off s its self defeating! Thanks for the compliments and you have to know that Francie is a fellow realtor who also has a great sense of humor. BTW I listened to the Chris Brogan interview about 30 minutes after this picture was taken so it just sort of fell in to place. Thanks for stopping by I need to check out your blog soon!
Andrew Lenza HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...looks like I might indeed be!
Chris Ann That's interesting about Brogan, I have not heard his comments on that part of the business! It is very prevalent these days so I try to be out and attend as many functions as possible. Like you, if we are professional and business like in a casual situation, it can pay off because we both put out a good impression and not a hard sell! Nice work on your part and we can mix business with fun if done right!
Ron & Alexandria It seems like it never stops at times and I like you phrase that we should never beg for business!
Andrew OK now you really got me laughing, I am going to have to check out your blog!
Hi Mary Very funny, I wish I could find some cologne that would only attract cash buyers 800K - 1.2M...oh now I am hallucinating!
Dawn It does seem to get out of hand at times but you certainly seem to have a handle on having a good time and still socializing with a little business included! Thanks for dropping by!
HI BETINA!! Thanks to you for prodding me to get busy again, I have been tied up at work without a lot of progress so I appreciate you giving me a little nudge! have a great holiday and we should have lunch soon!
The only cards that should be given out at holiday parties are Christmas cards and Starbucks gift cards. Your idea to be prepared but keep it low key if real estate comes up is a good one.
Russell - Parties? I love parties. While my out of control days are long past me, so I think, 'pushy' typically doesn't describe yours truly. Now humping your leg is a different story...
OMG Just the fact this expression is in the headline disturbs me and my proper Southern upbringing, but the other side of Janet is laughing her head off.
This is the most accurate description that I have ever heard of this type of activity. Thanks!
If we want to be respected as professionals we should act like professionals. If we want to be offensive and pushy they we should expect a bad result from our efforts. Thanks for the great post!
I hear ya. Not appropriate. I was amazed at how persistent some exhibitors were at the AC convention this past week. I'm just trying to check everything out for future reference yet some were downright hard sell.
Russell - Always awkward finding yourself the object of unwanted passion. :) This post had me laughing and remembering Social graces and social opportunity need to be balanced. Good featured post
You have hit the nail on the head here my friend. Since you're in the Austin area, perhaps we'll cross paths sometime. (And just have a casual discussion about real estate ... and maybe the family)
Russell - excellent post and you are absolutely correct. I don't like the "in your face" tactics in social or other situations. If someone wants information, I wait for them to ask. Congrats on the feature!
Very nice photo you have there! Thanks for the tips. I am going to be at a holiday party tonight.
Great photo, and a great tip for this time of year.
Hi Russell, Thanks a lot ! Now, every time I'm in a similar situation I will think of you and that dog carrying on !
It is truly amazing how some can't take "NO" for an answer. And using anything for that lead in . . . be it a holiday, or President's Day . . . they just don't stop trying to hawk their wares. It is ANNOYING and you couldn't have aligned it with a better analogy!!
That is true with telemarketers also... some of them just plain lie and do not tell things the way they are... I am my brokers first line of defense in the office... I am glad to hang up on them......
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Hi Russell. I cannot stop laughing LOL Great feature! ~ Lana
Howdy there Russell
I seen your mighty fine blog post, had been Featured by ActiveRain. So I had to stop back to leave my friend a
Hi Dale and thank you so much my friend, I am going to bookmark this spot so i can return later and respond to all of these great comments!
too funny ,,,but you made some good points ... and thanks for sharing
Russell,
Funny Stuff! True and funny! I think I'm going to copy your post and pass it out at social gatherings when I feel like someone is, well, you know! Thanks for the humor.
Merry Christmas!
Be sincere and enjoy the folks... let them lead the conversation and it will come back in spades when the time is right. I love the headline!
Hi Russell,
Love the "Kodak moment" caught of you! You are right, there is nothing worse than someone only at a function to push their business. You have the right attitude, be prepared with some generalities but low key. I agree for some reason people always want to talk Real Estate but like you said relax, have a good time, it's a party! Great title!!
Russell, what a great post, and incredibly funny photo!
It is true, holiday parties are for relaxing fun, and yes, you need to know your stuff, but who wants to be SOLD on ANYTHING while you are trying to enjoy yourself??
Congrats on the feature -- well deserved!
Russell,
I couldn't agree more. December is one of my best business building months because of all the new people I meet at social gatherings. I'd much rather learn about someone else than discuss what I do. A great conversationalist is someone who lets the other person do all the talking.
Great post, Russel. Can't stand it when my leg gets humped... so I don't hump on others. People need to chill out during the holidays:)
Russle: I love the Holidays for networking! We decided to start our very own tradition with an ugly sweater party this year. It was a huge success. I invited most of the neighborhood and many of my clients. There was NO talk of real estate though just a lot of ugly sweaters and a couple tequila shots... I posted some funny pics on my blog.... http://activerain.com/blogsview/1371216/a-stylish-christmas- but had to refrain from using them all ;-)
Happy Holidays!!
Vanessa Reilly
Russell, the indirect approach to letting people know you are a socially adept nice person first before diving into what you do for a living has always been the best approach. The soft sell in networking events. The humping the leg philosophy is a big turnoff you are right.
Oh no you didn't! Wow that is so funny and I cannot believe you really used that picture though the bulldog is kinda cute!
It seems that every party has several Real Estate talks. I do try to avoid that at the holidays. I hope your leg is feeling better now.
Real estate is the conversation of the house; so we have got to take advantage of that fact!
Okay...now I am going out to a couple pf "holiday parties" and will have to try and catch up with these comments either later this evening or during my open house tomorrow (if traffic is slow...)
Have a GREAT evening everyone and again, I appreciate all of the comments!
Too funny! Thanks for the analogy and the laugh!
Patricia/Seacoast NH
That's hilarious. As a child I had a cat that did the same thing. What a wonderful analogy. I'll have to keep this in mind.
If I ever have the privilege of being at a party with you, I am not sure whether it is safer to be near the dogs or the people with you!
Very very cute ! Great photo ! Seriously though, it is an excellent time to be out there networking during the holiday season. And have a little fun at the same time but not too much fun : )
Thanks for the well written and inspiring post Russel. Is that Bernie Madoff in the photo???
How about people who pass out business cards in church?
Me, and 2 other mortgage brokers, who all attended the same church, watched as a new real estate agent did some networking in the pews, passing out cards, talking neighborhoods. My head just was spinning.
Great post. Very funny and informative. Thanks for sharing with all of us.
It is amazing how much people like to talk about real estate. I think it is something that everyone can relate to in some manner.
Russell - As usual, very well said and so true! Have fun at all those parties!
I love what I do, and it is hard not to be enthusiastic sometimes... but I have been on the other side, too... Helps with the self-control.
Networking is a delicate balance. I believe that people like to do business with people who they like. And they don't like people who spam them, call at odd hours, bore them with constant talk about their business, try to sell them things at every opportunity, or just act in a generally annoying manner.
Alexander that's the best thing to do...just change the subject or walk away when you cannot hang up!
Lana I am so glad you enjoyed it!
Greater Mortgage You are very welcome and thanks for stopping by!
Greg Thanks, I feel a little humor can go a long way and you can use this post anytime...i am laughing just thinking about it!
Dan That is it in a nutshell, be sincere because people can spot a fake a mile away!
Dorie Hi there and thanks for stopping by, wow you are right it was certainly a Kodak moment to remember ;-P
Marney Thank you and I agree we can sell ourselves in a friendly setting without acting like used car salesmen!
Anthea That was my point because of the opportunity to meet so many new people we should be careful and not be too dang pushy! Thanks!
Cheryl Absolutely, the holidays are for enjoying ourselves our friends and associates!
Vanessa I love your attitude and your remarks about tequila and ugly sweaters cracked me up. I will check out your post if I can finish replying to all of the great comments! Thanks!
Gary I read your blog quite a bit and you are a person who has mastered the soft sell approach thanks for stopping by!
Mattie Oh yes I did!
Laura Oh you are cracking me up about my leg and someone earlier suggested i have the pants cleaned! too funny!
Melissa You know it IS the conversation of the house and i just think we should be careful how we handle it. Great comment and thanks!
Patricia You are very welcome, thanks for dropping by!
Felicia Okay, a cat? That’s a new one on me but it still fits the bill of a pushy sales person and they do come in all sizes and shapes!
Lisa That's a funny assessment but if we are ever at a party together I am sure it will be fun!
Christopher & Stephanie I agree because if it’s handled right it’s a great way to connect on a very good level with prospective clients.
Tigard Oh man...That’s me in the picture but I am guessing that crook Bernie will have his share of “pushy” cellmates in the future...DOH!
James That is right because most folks are curious on some level or other. A party is a good low key environment to talk!
Emily How is my favorite Nashville Realtor/Musician? Thanks for dropping by, yes i love to go to parties and not get too wild or too serious but I do like to have a good time!
Lane I have to tell you that I also feel the same way about my profession and find that at times I have to let off the gas pedal a bit now and then!
Mark I think you nailed it with the word “annoying” It should be obvious to the offender but usually it’s just the victims that notice...right away!
Let's see:
1) Great title? Check.
2) Relevant graphic/photo? Check.
2a) Hilarious photo. Check, and Bonus Points.
3) Excellent content to go with the title and photo? Check.
Well, that all makes this about the perfect blog to stumble upon when checking out AR for a few minutes after reading some e-mail...
Thanks for sharing this great post!
Well you certainly reeled me in with the title and I enjoyed reading all the posts. Very funny!
This was fun to read, but seriously it's right on. It's a great time to network and have a postive conversation with people about "the market", real estate matters and the fact that you are still here assisting people whatever their real estate need.
Too funny! I have an inside joke with a few close friends, when I refer to myself as "The Leg Humping Realtor"! Thanks for sharing,rob
Russell:
I like this post and it's so appropriate for the season. Some people just don't get the fact that a party is a party. A time to lighten up.
Russell, it was great seeing you at the party last night it's always fun visiting with you and Margaret looked fabulous as always! Thanks for telling us about your blog it's too funny and I agree that business casual can be a fun and pleasant way to connect with colleagues and friendsover the holidays but don't go overboard! I hope we see you all again before the end of the year, if not have a good Christmas and New Year!
Great to start my morning laughing so hard!!! I love this photo!! Can't stand when I am at a party and others are wearing name tags and pushing business-ugh!
Oh my GOSH!!! You are such a hoot and I love the expression on that dogs face! maybe it was as some have mentioned, "your cologne" too bad they don't have a cologne to attract clients!!
ROTFL...You got my attention at the title. When I saw the picture, I thought I would DIE laughing. That's priceless :)
Your post is dead on. We are in a perfect time to be networking. If we know our statistics, we look like the professionals we are supposed to be. I study areas and absorption rates until I'm blue in the face. It pays off!
Did the dog kiss you first before...well, ya know.
ROFLMAO x2! That is some great picture. I just had a guy doing "it" to me at a REBAR Camp in Atlantic City. After the third introduction (he didn't even remembered me from just 5 minutes earlier) I told him "It's O.K., you don't need to sell yourself here." But, he just moved on to his next victim. After he had moved on the guy next to me looked at the business card he was handed and whispered in my ear that "the guy works in my office and this is the first time I have ever seen him." We both laughed.
That is the funniest thing I have seen in ages and only you wold have the cojones to post it and then write a compelling article at the same time! I think you should use that as your facebook picture! have a good holiday and thanks for the advice AND the laughs!
Thanks for a Sunday laugh. That picture is great!
Hi Russell! I saw this on the AR email update and had to stop by to say hi and tell you how much I agree with your thoughts. Of course, you certainly can't blame the dog for his behavior given your irresistable charm!
Talk about an intriguing blog title! I HAD to read it. All great reminders that interest in real estate is everywhere and being prepared to talk spontaneously about the market will bring your name to mind when clients are ready to buy or sell. Happy holidays to everyone!
OK, Russell, I have to say I really admire your willingness to go the extra mile to get a great photo to illustrate your blog post! That, and the great title, made for one very interesting read (and a good laugh). Thanks!
In fact, we all need to loosen up a little and relax too. At party last night, I didn't tell anyone about my handyman business until others brought it up. Only one lead but that's just fine ... as I did have a nice, relaxing night.
Russell networking is so much funner at holiday parties is it not? I hope your leg makes a quick recovery:)
Russell, you always crack me up! This was hysterical. That lucky dog sure looked ecstatic! I agree that we should relax and enjoy during parties, not go around pushing our business cards in people's faces. I do visit a lot of clients during December and give out calendars, but I keep the visit short and don't generally talk business unless they ask me questions about the market. I also don't go around humping legs as it is a bit unseemly, not to mention unprofessional! Of course, I won't rule it out if I am ever at a holiday party with Antonio!
Hi Russell,
thanks for bringing a smile to my face today. The high pressure sales types are not the people I generally work with either. And most of my clients prefer knowledge over pushiness as well.
You are so right.....It is the question with every interaction - "How's the real estate market?
I do my best to be positive and also look for another positive twist.
Tonight I said we've had a pretty good year. $5,000,000 in Cancellations from Buyers walking away from the aggravation of a banks lack of response. You see the look of sympathy of shock on their face.
Then I follow up with that we wrote A LOT More that did stick. (These were mostly Real Estate related people tonight)
We are one of the survivors of this new marketplace!
It is incredibly aggravating and just another aspect of the business we are in. Joy
Toooooo funny. I love the photo. I've known dogs like these... No one wants to know people like these.
I had to read this as the title made me laugh at the start. Yes, there are a TON of this type of agressive peeps out there, most seem to work for the co's selling leads..lol
Wow...This one really hit the spot or maybe I should say the funny bone...wait maybe I should not mention bone in context of this post. :-0 Thanks again, I will try and respond to everyone soon!
Tim Well thank you very much, I believe that is the best compliment I have ever received. I need to head over to your blog and see what you are posting! Thanks again for stopping by!
Sandy his was one time when the catchy title was literal!
Terrylynn I try and mix a little humor in when I am discussing a serious subject but this time I may have gone a little overboard and heck...I might just do it again! I do agree that we ARE indeed assisting folks no matter what time of year!
Rob Uh-oh...that's a little scary but at the same time very funny! I think I need to mosey over to your blog and see what you are up too in the near future!
Claudette Yes, for sure...we can still make business a light bit of conversation and still have some fun!
Lea & Linda & Tom It was great seeing you all at the part and thanks for stopping by my blog! Thanks for the compliment about Margaret because she is looking very good these days and that makes me look good too! :-P
Cathy Lee I am glad I got a laugh out of you and everyone else who stopped by! Nice to see you again! I do like to have fun and even mix in some business now and then! I hope you are having a great holiday season!
Allysoun Yes...well you know me as well as anyone in the business and I did manage to slip this one in and it's funny that it was actually featured! WOW!
Elizabeth Ummm...YES I DO know!!! I completely cracked up when I saw your comment and at one point I toyed with using a similar line. Too funny and you are another person whose blog I need to visit in the near future!
Gregory That's really a funny story and I am just happy that the ReBar camp I attended did not have anyone like that HOWEVER we must always be on guard in our business ;-P
Dave Cojones...Si! But then again I may need a muzzle now and then! As far as using that on my FB profile...It might be a good way to get some folks to "un-friend me"! OOPS!
Justin You are most welcome and come back anytime!
Diane Thanks for dropping by and you made me laugh too. I had a couple of emails from clients who are Veterinarians who said the same thing!!!
Mary Ann The title does reel a person in but the subject is something we can all identify with any time of the year!
Michelle You are welcome and thank you very much. It's strange actually because I am considered to be very serious when it comes to business but on the other hand my sense of humor takes over and saves the day!
Tina That really is the best way, when someone else brings up the subject. Then again a little hint is okay too as long as it's not over played!
Bill Oh man! you made me laugh and the best part is that if done right, this can be a fun experience (the networking...NOT the dog)
HI SUSAN! Oh my gosh you and Antonio are just too much...now I am really laughing. Have a great day my friend!
Stuart You are welcome and I like the way you put that: "most of my clients prefer knowledge over pushiness as well."
Joy & Jeff I feel the same way and though business is good in Texas as compared to many other parts of the country, I still had a huge amount of business not materialize because many people were unable to sell and move here from other areas. Hang in there, you ARE doing something right!
Dava Yep, we have all experienced it and the good thing is that most of us can recognize it and extricate ourselves from the situation quickly!
Vanessa Yes and Absolutely YES to these lead companies! Ha ha, thanks for saying it!
Hi Russell, This post just put a smile on my face. Loved the photo too. Great way to state the obvious. No one like high preasured sales tactics or pushy people.
OMG this quote is how I feel EXACTLY!!!! "I am not out to sell anything except maybe me as a person behind my profession."
Reading all this suddenly made me remember something I read in a dog training book.
Males, neutered males, and females will all exhibit this behavior - and it's not about passion, it's about showing who is "top dog."
Thus, really an act of aggression - just like the people you meet at parties who are so overbearing!
That said, from other things I've read, I think the ONLY reason some people attend social events is to try to connect with potential clients.
The main thing is this..... if you get humped, just thump! Have a great Holiday!
How romantic, hahaha
Such good points and a reminder about social etiquette and how it applies to the Realtor. Thanks for the humorous spin on making the point.
Hey, wait a moment. Let's take a look at this from the dog's point of view. He probably does not have a lot of opportunities to excercise his social or business skills, so you have to give him some credit for at least trying to get your attention.
And you know what? It worked! You will always remember him. The next time you need a dog to um, . . . um . . . . well, you know what I mean here. You probably do not remember many of the others at that party, so whose technique would you say was the most effective?
"This is a great time to buy a house'"
Akron, Ohio
Oh Russell, you have to dial down the charm man!!!
Unfortunately this type of behavior reminds me of people who have trouble with emotional limitations, it will spill over into every aspect of their life too.
Cyndee, MPAHB (My Pedestrian Analysis of Human Behavior)
Good Heavens! I may never catch up with all of the compelling and funny comments left here but I will certainly try! Thanks to all who have contributed to this post!
Sue I am glad you enjoyed the post and thanks for the compliment!
Courtney You really made me laugh because that is exactly how i feel when dealing with pushy people and yes we can share about ourselves without steam rolling folks!
Marte Wow, that is really interesting and it makes sense that this is a dominant behavior even from the neutered, it;s just another form of aggression! Great points and thanks for sharing!
Diane Ha HA! Thanks, I will remember that!
Brett Yeah I guess the dog was just “in the mood” ;-P
Renee Yes and though more than a little bit off the wall it did make the point! thanks!
Thomas Okay, that really IS an excellent point and the dog certainly took advantage of a narrow “window of opportunity” that’s really funny!
Cynthia I cannot help it I guess iIjust have too much animal magnetism! HA HA and by the way i like your term MPAHB!
Always a good thing to keep in mind during the holidays! Thanks for the reminder!
~Katie
Hey Russell, I could not agree with you more. It is really important to exercise restraint when socializing at a holiday party (or any party for that matter). People do love to talk real estate and love asking questions about the market. I do my best to give valuable info without going into much detail. Similar to what you said, I try to prep myself ahead of time to keep things short and sweet if the topic comes up. I have gotten into the habit of asking people what they do for fun, rather than what type of work they do. I think people are so use to being asked about their profession that it kind of throws them through a loop when I ask about the non-work activities. It helps break the ice and leads to a more relaxing conversation.
I guess the dog knows a "Dog Whisperer" when he meets one..
Bring me my Christmas present by the office and I promise we wont talk business..
A realtor's job is never done- special favors must be accounted for- the question? Who is the reciepient of the favor? Nice work Russell- you are one funny cat with a great sense for business.
Looks like the papparazzi caught you at an awkward moment! LOL
Russell,
Say what you want but one of you was having a "dog-on" good time!
It sounds like you have a good balance and a good perspective. I hate being pushy.
LOL Russell...
I couldn't even read the post. The title and the image had me laughing too hard. I gotta come back. I can't stop laughing :)
TLW...ROAR!
Okay...
I came back and still can't stop laughing. I'll try again later :)
TLW...ROAR!
The title - catchy.
The story - interesting.
The picture - priceless.
Some how you tied a humping dog to an overly aggressive sales tactic at a holiday party.
I like it.
Heck...I may never catch up but will try later this evening! Thanks to all who have contributed to this conversation!
Your Humor Mr Lewis, cracked me up! What a hilarious photo!!!!!!!!!! I wanna go on tour with you crazy Austin guys!
I think the one nice thing is that after a few years of doing real estate, people ask you everything. The first couple of years, you're dying to talk about it to make an impression, but people don't yet view you as an expert!
Russell, was it good for you? You look 'happier and more relaxed' in your photo. I hope you called the English Bulldog the next day to say you enjoyed yourself and you'll call again! Great post LOL.
You hit the jackpot with this one! And I see Lenza is back at AR, and starting from scratch. Don't let him hump your leg!
Russell this one really hit a nerve. I have never liked pushy sales people in any environment and it is especially irritating during the holidays. Relax and enjoy the season!
Language!!! That bulldog is too funny!
golly gee no wonder i dont get business from these parties, i thought i was going there to eat their food and drink their free booze..the party is to get biz, OH, and looking up stats b/4 u go, that is good...thx for sharing i will use this stuff
golly gee no wonder i dont get business from these parties, i thought i was going there to eat their food and drink their free booze..the party is to get biz, OH, and looking up stats b/4 u go, that is good...thx for sharing i will use this stuff
Howdy there Russell
Have gone back to pay a visit to your new friend, up there in the photo. LOL
I really stoped by to say, Happy New Year to you and your family, my friend!!!
LOL Russell, That dog really, really liked you! Congrats on the feature.